REGRETS AND GRATITUDE

Have been recently thinking on the topics of regret and gratitude and how they relate and wanted to bring the thoughts forward for discussion and feedback.

At times we hear people who are regretful of what they have done in the past, whether regarding a single isolated action or a marriage, a friendship, a partnership or a business venture, and the list goes on. My view of regret is that: it is truly a waste of time and energy.  I have never seen anyone nor have I been able to go to the past and undo what I think might have been wrong.  Also knowing that the energy you spend will bring back that type of energy into your life, then spending time on regretting what has happened in the past will only bring back more of the same experience and the cycle goes on.

One of the questions I tend to ask from the regretful person is: do you like where you are right now in life?  Some say yes.  The answer to those people is: then you must understand the butterfly effect of all incidents in the past in order for you to be where you are; hence the idea of kicking the regrets and being grateful for now which brings about forgiving all that and everything that has pushed you in to the place that you are right now.

Some say no.  The answer I have for them: you must start realizing the value of the emotional investments you are making.  The reason you are not happy is because you have allowed the feelings of regret to rule you, which brings about equally draining emotions, sending out vibrations to attract more of the same, hence you are where you do not like to be.  This is the time you need to stop the regret and understand that there is no undoing of what has been done; forgive, learn not to do it again and be grateful for the life you have.  The feeling of gratitude of course will change your energy vibration and frequency and cause for much needed change that you would like to see happen.

We need to truly understand that when we are claiming that we are happy and grateful, we cannot be regretful at the same time.  The feelings of gratitude and regret never occupy the same space.  You are either regretful or grateful.  When you have what you like in your life and in the meantime sit and contemplate about what you could have or should have done or had, then you are regretful.  Don’t fool yourself by saying, “don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for what I have but I should have done…..”  the minute you say that or think that, you are completely ungrateful.  You are where you are because of what has happened in the past.  Forgive, release, and be grateful for all that you have RIGHT NOW.

Live in Light!

EL